Secondly, my shift of offices. Now I am travelling 21 kms up & down, 5 days a week and I am dead tired the moment I reach home. Work-wise, I love coming to this new office as the workflow is quite different from what I have done (and there is so much to learn) but the travelling is quite a challenge. But if you ask me, I will never disclose or bleat saying that I get dead tired!
P.S. There is a reason to write an answer after such a long time and that is one of my office people has switched on notification whenever I post an answer on Quora and when she enquired why am I not writing anymore, I felt that not all goes in vain, some stays!
For me ‘struggling’ will be a big word, I would like to state I am trying to cope with the current situation.
If a guy is attracting a bunch of what he believes to be "ugly" women, is he crushing the dating game?
Struggles are real and to overcome those it needs time. At the age of 30+, I need to figure out things and bring them to a proper line to understand what I need to do or prioritise.
I have decreased my usage of Quora for the past 4–5 months simply ( and I will be blunt) there is no appreciation or genuine liking of answers within the people who read. And I feel due to Quora’s logarithm, answers don't reach or is brought to attention therefore the answers get stagnated and somehow I feel discouraged to write. Trust me writing on Quora takes time and patience. And somehow I think my life is not that exciting or anything worthwhile happens that I can pen down. Nobody would like to read about my mundane day-to-day activities. No one does! And there are no experiences to share at all. I have become very boring and too an extent lazy that I don't push myself to do anything nor I feel tempted to write on Quora. My life is as same as the unending and stagnated traffic in OMR, Chennai.
Firstly, to address the elephant in the room, I have gained a good amount of weight and it is not a good sign if you ask me. Why? Because people suffering from PCOS or any hormonal issue shouldn't be gaining weight. And no matter, how much time I spend on doing yoga or going for a 30–45 minute walk, is not solving the issue. I was going through my earlier Quora answer about my weight loss or how I try to stay fit, it seems like a distant affair which I am not able to grasp or implement in my life. Like I have changed a lot in these few years.
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
